Moving Through a Break Up

Whether you are going through a relationship breakup after a 6-month relationship or a 15year marriage we can all agree that it can be emotionally hard. While some days we feel free and light, other days can be filled with an array of emotions from doubt and regret to sadness and grief.

There is no right or wrong way to move through a breakup, what is most important is to give yourself the grace and time you need to process not only the breakup but the emotions that follow.

Over the years, I have worked with people who have blamed themselves for not being good enough, not putting in enough effort into making the relationship work and I have worked with those who have exited abusive relationships. With every breakup, we all have our own nuances that we need to move through.

For some of you, it is about moving through the grief cycle. Not only grieving the loss of the relationship but also the loss of the potential future that you could have had together - The loss of the ‘happy family’, ‘the dream relationship’ that could have been.

For those of you moving away from a toxic abusive relationship, there is not only the grief of the relationship but also about rebuilding yourself, healing from the abuse and reestablishing your place in your world.

As your Heart Breath Therapist, I guide you through the below steps to help you transition.

Acceptance

Sometimes, acceptance of what has just happened can feel surreal especially if the break up has come as a surprise. Some people sit in the stalemate zone for a long time while they process what has just happened. While this can be ok for some, it is important to be aware of how this is also affecting your life around you. Eg: are you still living in the same house 3 months after? Are you still acting as you are a couple? Are you in denial of what has happened? And Is it affecting how you function at work and with your family and friends?

The Emotions

There will be different emotions to process from sadness, grief, self doubt, frustration, anger, feeling lost and so much more. It is important to give yourself time to process these emotions. It is not something to move through in a day. Hypnosis is so effective at helping you move through these so you can start the journey to rebuilding your life after the separation.

Leaning Into What Is Next

When we are in the middle of the breakup it can be impossible to see beyond today. Once you move through the pain and emotions of the break up, you can start at looking at what is next for you. What does this next version of you look like, feel like and act like. It’s learning you again as an individual person. Learning to reprioritise what you want, need and like and in some cases working out what that even looks like.

In my past 10 years of working with women, I have help guide many of them through making the decision to rebuild a relationship or to leave and to reconnect with themselves again. To work out what they want in their own lives separate from the relationship.

Many time when people are in a relationship they forget to nurture themselves and loose themselves in the partnership until one day they work out they are not where they want to be.

It is remembering there is 3 parts; You, your partner and the relationship, and all three parts need to be cared for in their own way.

When you look after you, you know who you are, what you want and how you want to move forward. This is the greatest gift you can give to yourself.

If you are going through a breakup or divorce or are considering one, I am here to help guide you through the process.

When you are ready to be guided send me a email and we can chat on how Hypnotherapy can help you through this important part of your life.